Healing- what it is and what it is not

Lately, I have had a visceral reaction to the word heal. I know this seems silly. What could be wrong with healing. Who doesn’t want to be healthier. The problem is, it is so often misused when it comes to emotional health. Acceptance, forgiveness, these are wonderful concepts, except and until they become a means of repeating unhealthy cycles. True healing is a wonderful thing, but it is not supposed to be about wiping the slate clean. If someone has wronged me, my wife and/or kids, holding on to that anger does no good. But letting go of that anger, does not mean forgetting it. There is an old saying, you can’t unscramble eggs. To me healing is not and should not be about trying to unscramble eggs, or worse, pretending they were never scrambled in the first place. Healing is about making an omelette. You don’t like omelettes? Tough shit, you should have thought about that before you choose to take a wisk to eggs.