OK to start of with the platonic friendships and synchronicity. Over the last month or so I have had three separate people bring up the fact that I have close relationships with a lot of females and that can be misconstrued. The first was about a month ago and the last 2 were this week. Here is the deal. I have always had more female friends that male friends. Why. Women, on average, are cooler than men. They are often smarter or at least more verbal. They are usually more emotionally intelligent. Real friendships, the deep meaningful kind should be based on real connections. That takes understanding and communication. I find that easier in women than in men. Melissa and I are both comfortable with the fact we have close friends of the opposite sex. She had a Man of honor at our wedding. And I had a groomswoman and a female friend sign/witness the ketubah signing. Melissa and I have complete trust in one another. And here is the deal I have never cheated on anyone in my life. I’m not saying I didn’t have wild promiscuous single days, because I did. But never while in a relationship. With out trying to sound to arrogant, I’m a fairly nice looking guy who has had plenty of opportunities to cheat. I never have and I wouldn’t start with my wife and mother of my children. So yes I have a lot of female friends. Some are very attractive, but I have no intention or desire to sleep with any of them. OK enough said.
My server crash made me very nervous. I’m never going to remember to back up every day and I want to keep a log of the drafts, as they develop and change over time. I’m thinking about putting them in Ebook format and putting them on my site. These will just be drafts with no graphics. I don’t want to hurt my chance of actually getting these published when I decide to look for an agent and/or publisher so I am a little wary. But these are just drafts and without animations. My plan is to put some of the smaller ones together in a series of vignettes. With the bigger one’s as stand alone e-books. I’m not going to charge per download, but I will put up a paypal tip box on the download page. If you think it’s worth a dollar or two, feel free, or just enjoy and wait for the more formal product. But I would appreciate a Facebook like on the Egret Fan Page. If anyone in the industry thinks this is a bad idea, let me know.
Anybody who has problems with your having female friends can just stuff it. My close friends (different from my drinking buddies) have usually been women, going all the way back to college and before. In part it is probably because I couldn’t care less about sports (outside of baseball, of course).
As for backup, my suggestion is to do your writing on your computer – not your server – and then upload. Sign up for one of the online backup programs – I like iDrive and SugarSync – which can be set to back up changed files from your computer automatically.
I agree and am not a sports fan either so maybe that has something to do with it. I’ll check out the sync solutions but I don’t make much in ad revenue hate to waste what I am making. But I could always set up a centos box at home and have them sync for free
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Both iDrive and SugarSync give you 5GB for free. And if you use this link to sign up:
http://www.idrive.com/?uid=K2D7M1R6X0
iDrive will give me an extra .5GB
Once you’ve signed up, you’ll get your own referral link, which you can post on the blog, just in case 5GB isn’t enough
A big – “Whatever” – to people who can’t understand that men and women can be friends without it being some sort of secret cover for their desire to have sex with each other. What is this? The middle ages? Sheesh.
I know. It is insane. Its high school antics.
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Oh I have a million things to say about platonic relationships. A million. I have more male friends than female friends, and most of my female friends are girlfriends/wives of my male friends or are other women who prefer the company of men. I have always appreciated the company of men. I might even go to Greece with one of my male friends in September. Without my husband and kids. And I KNOW what an ordeal this will be because people just cannot understand it. But my husband does and that’s all that really matters to me.
My best friend is a guy. A guy who has SO MANY FEMALE FRIENDS. And he’s single. And straight. And I have to say sometimes I think its odd that he has so many female friends, but then I realize its no different than me having male friends. And perhaps a small part of me is jealous, because I want to be his only close female friend. But that’s the nature of relationship. Platonic and otherwise. There’s so many assumptions, so many illogical feelings.
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Thanks for commenting. I totally get it. Single or married most of my friends have always been women.
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